Let me just talk for a minute on why I’m in a sorority. First of all, sororities aren’t like you see in movies or on TV… most of them anyway. It’s also worth mentioning that my chapter is not officially part of the greek system on my campus. All that means is that we don’t have a university-associated house, and we aren’t required to participate in as many geek events (including rush); this gives us a lot more flexibility to focus on what is important to us.
As I mentioned in a previous post, I did not initially come to college thinking that I wanted to join a sorority. In fact, I was completely opposed to it. But as I loved out my first semester as a freshmen it became increasingly more apparent that being a woman in an engineering major was going to be a challenge. Not because I couldn’t handle the load, not because I couldn’t hack it, but because there just aren’t that many of us. Granted, there are more now than there ever were. It’s hard for me to relate to guys sometimes (other times it’s easier) and most of my class had more men than women. At first I didn’t think it would be much of a problem, but as I’ve advanced in school, I’ve come to realize how important it is to have those connections with the women with whom I have similar experiences with.
So, why did I change my mind?
The first thing that struck me about this sorority was that it was specifically created for female engineers and STEM (science, technology, engineering, math) majors. They would all be as focused on academics as I am. They would understand when I had to choose academics over a function. And, because They weren’t officially in the university’s greek system, there were already less social/philanthropy requirements than regular sororities. That also meant that they could do rush however they wanted. There were only 4 events over 2 weeks, and it was after the semester started, so no dealing with the mess of Rush week. The understanding that as an engineering major I wouldn’t have as much time to commit to functions was incredibly appealing.
The second thing was that from the moment I first met some of the girls, I felt comfortable. How I dressed didn’t matter. Where I was from didn’t matter. What I believed didn’t matter. It was okay that I was obsessed with Doctor Who, there were Whovians in the group! “Hey, who’s taking Calculus II next semester? Let’s start a study group!” Need a study break at 10 p.m.? Go get some ice cream and chill (as a side note, one of our rush events is always making ice cream using liquid nitrogen, WAY cool!). Who likes camping? “You play Minecraft, check out this YouTube channel, you’ll love it!” Chapter meetings where we wear silly hats and share stories from the week? Um, yes please. These are all experiences I’ve had this semester alone. If there is one thing these girls get (as with whatever sorority you’re in), it’s friendship. It’s sisterhood.
The third thing is this: when I met my Big, I made a friend and sister for life. Whether we’re jamming to Uptown Funk, eating Sim Chicken’s for dinner, or just chilling in the bus station… the memories I make with her are memories to last a lifetime. We study together, we support each other, we console each other, advise each other, we believe in God together. We just share life together. If I would have known before I rushed how much I would value her, It would have been enough to convince me.
Forget what you see on TV. Sororities are moe than just booze and parties and glitter posters. They’re a place to belong. A place to land. A place to make memories that last a lifetime.
Always With Love
PS: Here’s the link from a Pinterest pin that inspire this post: “What I Wish I Knew Before Joining a Sorority”